Real Talk

In Real Talk I focus on random life circumstances. As basic as grabbing coffee at Starbucks and as serious as social issues.

How I moved to Hawai’i

Aloha!

I know this is long overdue…. but here it is! The reason why I moved to Hawaii.

The most common question I got asked when I moved was: “Out of all places, why Hawaii?”

Me: “Well, why not?”

There were so many reason that led me to move here. So here it is. Bare with me.

I would say my journey started when I moved away from Savannah to Kennesaw. I moved to pursue a degree that was closer to what I wanted to do. It seemed like the right thing to do. Unfortunately, there were many signs that kept telling me that I did not belong there. I tried giving it a chance, telling myself  to weigh it out and that everything will fall into place but that was not the case. Within the first couple of months I was struggling to get used to the lifestyle. I moved without knowing anyone and I even got into a car accident that totaled my car (then my second car got broken into later on). School was not what I expected. I didn’t feel like I belonged there even though I kept trying to convince myself that it was the right decision. In other words, I was not happy. So I decided to do something about it.

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In July, I began thinking on what I really wanted to invest my future in. I knew I had to get student loans so if I was going to do it then I wanted to do it right. I researched schools that had good programs in my field. During my search, every time I had to pick a state Hawaii would always be under Georgia in the list. Before I clicked on Hawaii, I remember thinking, “For some reason, I am going to click on this and it will lead me to where I need to go.” I clicked on Hawaii, clicked on the University of Hawaii at Manoa and I fell in love. I said to my self “This is crazy?! But what if I could do this?”. So then it began.

I made a decision of taking off a semester, something I never wanted to do. I knew that taking off a semester meant that I had to work extra hard and as much as I could so I could save up for the big move. It was a big risk. I had no idea if was even accepted yet?! I began working two jobs, one full time and one part time. I would be up for work at 4 am then be home around 10:30pm. I decided to keep quite with everything and just work my butt off. Everything was still uncertain but I was determined. There was nothing but self motivation. My family naturally though it was crazy. (Could you blame them?)

November came and my time was ticking. My lease was ending, school was about to begin again and I had to make a decision to stay or leave. Then one night, my father FaceTimed me and read a letter from the University of Hawaii. I had gotten accepted and things were finally starting to come together. I put my car for sale, turned in my resignation letter and bought a one way ticket to Hawaii.

Although my time in Kennesaw was not the best, it was definitely much needed. It pushed me to pursue my dreams and I met a lot of amazing people along the way. I definitely miss a lot of friends and family but everything has been going pretty well. I have a new job, met amazing people and most importantly I am happy.

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So my message to you:

If you have dream or goal (long term or short term) just go for it. The only way you achieve it is if you just START. Don’t worry about what people will think. The point is for you to be happy and feel good about what you are doing. You will never know your limits until you push them. Never stop believing in your self. Do you boo… do you.

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BAPS Shri Swaminarayan Mandir

Tuesday morning,

My roommate and I decided to go on an adventure. A place we both have never been before. Yes, you guessed it by the name of this post, we went to BAPS Shri Swaminarayan Mandir. And let me tell you, it was breathtaking.

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It was our first time stepping into a temple and attending a service. Every inch of that place was covered of an artwork that was out of this world. The presence inside was just peaceful and you could just feel how their faith filled the room.

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Although we were not allowed to take pictures inside, it gave us a moment to take everything in and just really admire the beauty behind everything, from the wall carvings to the architectural work inside and outside of the building.

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Being there really opened up my mind and reminded me to always be open. There is beauty and good in every part of the world. Our lives can become an endless cycle of eat, sleep, repeat kind of thing. Sometimes you just need to stop and do something spontaneous. Don’t be afraid to try something new or different.

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Life is short ( yes another cliché quote) but I mean it is. There is so much that we have yet to discover. Its time to start checking off boxes from your bucket list. Go do you boo. And do it full of awesomeness.

The will is not free – it is a phenomenon bound by cause and effect – but there is something behind the will which is free.
– Swami Vivekananda

Let’s talk DACA

When I was younger, I remember a boy in my class say that you can only see your dreams when you are sleeping and that they are not real (kid logic, make sense, right?). My teacher overheard and corrected him. She told the whole class that dreams are just a preview of our future and that it is up to us if we want to see them come true.

“Dreams do come true and we can do anything if we set your minds to it.”

Pretty cliche, right? But it’s true.

DACA, Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals allows Dreamers to have a chance at achieving the “American Dream”. Dreamers are children that were brought to this country by the decision of their parents. DACA grants education, jobs, and a life in a place that Dreamers call home.  These so called “job stealing immigrants” are people saving lives as paramedics, teachers showing your child right from wrong,  your friends, your classmates, your neighbors or even your family. That is over 800,000 young people who contribute this country’s economy.

The decision to remove DACA will not in any way bring the Latino community down. This is our opportunity to unite, speak up, stand up, and fight for what is right. There are many ways to help and it starts with you. Talk about it. Bring up the conversation with your co-workers, classmates or maybe even a stranger at a coffee shop. Do something.

Here’s how:

  • Text RESIST to 50409 and it will allow you to send a fax via text to your senators.
  • Call Congress at (202) 224-3121
  • Call the White House at (202) 224-3121
  • Ask them to defend and preserve DACA and to vote in favor of the Dream Act.

What you are about to see is a black and white film photography series of my friends that are DACA recipients at Armstrong State University. It was an experiment with lighting and layering where the the students in the photos hand wrote a small definition of who they are. These diptychs represent their past, present and future. DACA students are

#HERETOSTAY #UNDOCUMENTEDANDUNAFRAID #DEFENDDACA

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The Sunflower Farm

Story time

So my friends and I have been planning this awesome trip to a sunflower farm for about a couple of weeks. Every time we wanted to go something would always come up so we had to bail.  We checked the times of when the farm was open and so one day we all just got dressed up and left.  We were all excited because it was the first time for everyone. We drove about 50 min with rain falling and stoping then falling again. Once we reach the area, the rain had cleared but we could only see what we thought was a cornfield. So after going around and around I decided to call because we thought we were lost. That was the moment we received the worst news ever. The sunflower season was over and they had cut down all the flowers.

The End.

Ok I know that wasn’t the most interesting story, but I tell you this because there was a bigger meaning than getting our hearts broken. When we left the farm my friend ask me to drive back. So we parked in this beautiful neighborhood to switch spots. When I got out I saw there was a row of daisies so we did a quick little photoshoot.

 

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It turned out to be really nice and although it wasn’t the sunflowers in our background we were able to see the beauty in these daisies. People can be blinded or be disappointed by their expectations. That day was a great example of being open minded. Things won’t always go your way and you can’t put yourself down for it. Sometimes you have to see the beauty in things and be more optimistic. We still had fun and we were able to turn what we thought was a waste of time into a beautiful memory.

 

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Life is to short to dwell on the past. The flowers were cut and there was nothing we could do about it. But that didn’t mean that the flowers next to it weren’t good enough.

 

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QOTD: ” You can plan a pretty picnic. But you can’t predict the weather.” – OutKast

Trust me, I’m a stylist

“Dun dun dundun, dun dun dundun…” It’s wedding season!

Ladies and gentlemen, we are gathered here today to discuss the most important thing for a bride… her dress. Getting married is a special day for everyone. Whether it’s her first or her third, the bride deserves to feel special. I have been a bridal stylist for a little over a year now, and I’m excited to share with you some amazing tips from a stylist’s point of view that can help make shopping for “the one” easy-peezy (it’s about to get juicy).

Let’s get started!

MENTAL PREP: On your wedding day, you can shine as much as you want, and you are the boss because it’s YOUR DAY! OWN IT, GUUURL! Be positive and confident, have fun, and most importantly, have an open mind.  If you are a ballgown princess bride be open to trying on a mermaid. You’ll be surprised how great you can look in one 😉

RESEARCH: Having a visual reference is great way to give your stylist a starting point. Go through the store’s catalog or website and save your favorites. Even Pinterest is a huge help! It gives you, the bride, an idea of what to expect and not get overwhelmed when you walk into a store.

GUEST: I know we all want to share this amazing experience with everyone and don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by not including someone. However, having too many guests can bring a lot of opinions and it can get overwhelming for you and everyone else around you. Keep your party to a minimum. Seeing your dress is also a great surprise for your guest on the day of your wedding.

BUDGET: A wedding, big or small, can get very pricey. When you budget for a dress be sure to include the following: your dress (duh), undergarments, shoes, accessories, and the big one, alterations. A lot of brides tend to forget about alteration which can sometimes be as much of your dress or even more.

TIME: My answer is no, you are not crazy if you buy your dress a year in advance. A wedding dress can take weeks to get in. On top of that you also need time for alterations. You don’t want to wait till the last minute and not have time to fix any possible errors. Believe me, I’ve seen it and it’s not pretty.

Well there you have it folks! Feel free to drop down any questions below and let me know how your experience on finding ‘the one’ goes!

It’s official!

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It’s official guys, I’m 21! (WHOO HOO) To be honest, its been quite a journey. Turning 21 definitely feels great, but it is an age, at least for me, where I have learned a lot about myself.

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I recently moved to a town that I never been to before. Where nobody knows me, where I’m no one’s regular coffee customer, and where I’m really just a no one. As scary as it sounds, I actually really like it. It has given me a chance to start over. I’ve met amazing people, learned new things and picked a new hobby (ehem…netflix).

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This year did start off a bit rough (new school, stolen phone, car accident…just to name a few). However, that has not stopped me. Being a young adult comes with a lot of questions. Am I in the right path? Is the struggle even worth it? What happens next? I am here to remind you and myself that whatever life throws at you, IT WILL BE OK!

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Now to end this post I want to give a shout out to all my peeps celebrating their birthday in this lovely month of February. Till next time guys!

P.S. Never forget…you do you boo 😉

 

Be like a child

I am not a writer but that doesn’t mean I don’t write. Hers’s a little something that has been on my mind.

“Be like a child”

Be like a child and make a new friend

Be like a child and get to know them

Be like a child and ask why they are sad

Be like a child and ask to understand

Be like a child and point out a problem

Be like a child and learn how to solve them

Be like a child and come to a conclusion

Be like a child and find a solution

Be like a child and go out and explore

Be like a child and seek to learn more

Be like a child and stumble and fall

Be like a child and stand big and tall

Be like a child and dust off the dirt

Be like a child and learn to be hurt

Be like a child and know its ok to be afraid

Be like a child and know it will get better each day

Be like a child and start growing up

Be like a child and don’t give up

Be like a child and be scared of the dark

Be like a child and leave your mark

Be like a child and let your mind wonder

Be like a child and understand the word sonder

Because we got lost in our time and forget who we are.

We have to go back and learn to restart.

It is the innocence that blinds us from the negativity.

It is the media that opens our minds to cruelty.

Love like a child, that is the most pure.

Fight the pain, that we continue to endure

We are one country and we stand together.

Tough like a rock and delicate like a feather.

Much love

-Jocelyne

Southern Pecan

For those who don’t follow me on my social media ( ehem, you should go do that now @thisisjocelyne) I shared with everyone my sister’s baby announcement! I honestly never imagined how excited I would be. Mairely and her husband Dario will be amazing parents 😊 (as well as I will be an amazing aunt 😉)

So far, our little southern pecan is 9 weeks out. We took advantage of hurricane Matthew to bring us all together to do a quick little photo shoot as they begin their journey. Stay updated as I will be sharing with you the progress of her pregnancy.

If there are any moms out there that have any advice to first time mothers please post a comment below or shoot me an email. This is a wonderful experience for her and I’m sure will benefit from any advice you give her.

Till next time!

-Jocelyne

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Cafecito time

I want to start off this post by congratulating you on all that you are doing. Whether it is getting a new job, surviving the first week of college, or just ending your shift at work. It doesn’t matter what you are doing, only know that you got there, you made it, and keep going. We all work hard to pay our bills or perhaps provide for our expensive lifestyles (guilty). Whatever it is, congrats, because you’re doing it. Now I need you to do something:

Just stop

Take a breath…take a deep breath. Take a moment and simply relax. Even if you are going through a hard time, know that things will get better. Life happens, that includes good and bad things. You have made it this far. There are moments where we are so busy and don’t stop to give ourselves a break. So for today, your task will be to take a chill pill.

have some cafecito

read an old book

visit a friend

take a jog

stay in and listen to the rain

plugin your headphones and forget about the world.

 

You deserve it. Then keep on doing you boo. You’ve made it this far 😉

I’m Back!

HEELLLOOOOO!!!!

The moment I saw that I hadn’t posted in 4 months I knew I had to speed this process up. I had given myself a break to think about the blog’s potential and what I really wanted to do with it. It’s still the same ole’ me but a bit more new and revised 😉 I want this to be a place where I can escape and write about what I love the most. After a lot of planning, I can finally say that “This Is Jocelyne” is now live!

I plan on giving reviews, small talks, tutorials, and sharing my artistic work. Believe me, I’m no professional! If there is anything you guys would want to see or discuss, I would be more than happy to post about it.

I hope you guys like this new look and plan on staying here a while. This journey has just begun.

– Your one and only

Jocelyne